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April 21, 2018

 

Green Sunset

 

A.Z.,

Compared to other people’s relationship issues, this may well be nothing. Still, I would be lying if I said it didn’t bother me. From the beginning of my relationship with my girlfriend Mindy, she has continually questioned my faithfulness. Every time I stop at a store after work or go out with my buddies, I have to keep Mindy apprised of my whereabouts. Several times now she has even “spontaneously” shown up at the places I told her I was, as if to check up on me.

Needless to say, I would never in a million years ever think to cheat on her, as I am in fact completely in love with her. The only downside to continuing to date her is of course her constant paranoia. Worse still, I recently learned that Mindy had her sister, who is a state social worker, look into my past history when we first started dating. In a way, I feel like this was a complete betrayal of trust on Mindy’s part—and this, at the very beginning of our rapidly burgeoning relationship. If only I would have known then how little she apparently trusts me, who knows if we would even still be together?

—So Tired of Her Constant Paranoia

 

Hi, So Tired.

From what I can tell, it sounds like your relationship is perfectly adequate otherwise. You are completely in love with her, and I’m assuming she is also very much in love you. (Perhaps too much in love, as she also appears to have the need to perpetually control you.) That being said, having one’s integrity being questioned certainly can’t be any fun. What I would suggest is that you sit her down and talk to her, telling Mindy how much her paranoia bothers you, and, just like you said, that you would never in a million years ever think to cheat on her. If that is not enough for her, you may well have to look into relationship counseling (which I honestly hate to suggest, seeing as how the two of you are only just DATING), as there may be some underlying medical condition causing her to be paranoid.

In regards to having Mindy’s sister look into your background before dating you, what else can we all possibly expect? Things have very much changed for all of us with the omnipresent Internet, and we have far more information at our fingertips than is now probably good for us. For your own mental wellbeing, I would forget about the fact her sister researched you, and instead focus on the here and now. As digitized as our society has now become, it is my prediction researching one’s potential romantic partner online will soon be nothing less than an assumed, automatic process.

 


 

Feel free to contact Anonymous Zaius and ask him dating/relationship questions at AnonymousZaius@gmail.com.

For the record, Anonymous Zaius (AKA Jason Famous) is not, nor has he ever been, a licensed counselor or psychologist. What advice he has to give was acquired the old-fashioned way, through the dual schools of both hard knocks and his own personal dating experience. It thus goes without saying the above dating advice is to be used for purposes of entertainment only.

 

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